NEW: 2018 Loves-Me-Not materials now available!
Loves-Me-Not is a ‘whole-school approach’ to prevent abusive behaviour in relationships. It is based on a student inquiry learning process, where students take action (personal action, effective bystander action and community action) to prevent harm from relationship abuse.

Loves-Me-Not is designed for Year 12 students as the appropriate age to discuss relationship abuse and to start to take action for change. It uses a whole school approach and includes a one-day workshop.

Introductory video

Nigel Latta introduces a 10-minute video that explains how Loves-Me-Not teaches senior secondary school students about healthy relationships. The film encourages parents to talk with their teenage children about navigating relationships and avoiding relationship abuse.

Whilst primarily aimed at parents, this video is suitable for anyone at all who wishes to know more about Loves-Me-Not.

We encourage all schools who are doing Loves-Me-Not to share the YouTube link via your school e-newsletters or social media, and to show the video at parent and staff meetings.

The video can be accessed on YouTube at:

Registration form 

Use this form to register for Loves-Me-Not in 2018.

Implementation guide

The Loves-Me-Not implementation guide assists:

  • schools to implement Loves-Me-Not as a whole-school approach
  • Police to provide community support and leadership for Loves-Me-Not
  • facilitators to ensure consistency of delivery of the workshop.

The 2018 implementation guide is now available:

Note: If your school is still using the 2017 guide, this will remain available until Term 2, 2018: 

Workshop material

Delivery of the Loves-Me-Not workshop includes a workshop manual, workshop resources (print resources used during the workshop), and a PowerPoint presentation (used during the workshop). These were all updated in 2018.

  • The workshop manual describes the learning intentions and procedures for delivering the one-day Loves-Me-Not workshop across six focus areas.
  • The workshop resources provides the print resources used during the workshop.
  • The following PDF file provides a preview of the workshop PowerPoint presentation, but its embedded video links are disabled. The actual PowerPoint (PPTX) file with working links to the videos will be provided by the Police Loves-Me-Not facilitator, or can be obtained by contacting your School Community Officer via your local Police station

Note: If your school is still using the 2017 workshop manual and resources, these will remain available until Term 2, 2018:  


The Loves-Me-Not workshop includes a process evaluation to be completed by students and facilitators after the workshop. These evaluations are then collated onto the following form for submitting to Police National HQ:

Note: If your school is still using the 2017 resource, please use the 2017 form for collating the process evaluations: 

An impact evaluation is also done with a random sample of the students and school staff at least four months after the workshop. The forms for the impact evaluation are included in the implementation guide.

Frequently asked questions

This two-page summary answers frequently asked questions about Loves-Me-Not. This FAQ was last updated in 2018.

Sexuality education guide

The Ministry of Education’s Sexuality Education: a guide for principals, boards of trustees, and teachers is also of relevance to schools when considering child abuse or relationship violence education.